Who’s the Real Dick? {It’s Not “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom”}

gifts

I’m a fan of the gift giving experience. I love selecting them, wrapping them and presenting them to their intended recipients.

Watching people open gifts (that have been thoughtfully selected by me) really is my idea of fun times.

I also love receiving gifts and can honestly say, I’m easy to please. There is something about the surprise-factor that still excites me, despite being an almost-40-year-old, fully grown woman. If you’ve chosen it for me, I will be grateful to receive it. I can usually identify a re-gift, but don’t worry, I won’t hold it against you.

I know that not everyone shares in my gifting enthusiasm. In fact, more often than not I have noticed friends and family taking a practical approach to gift-giving by asking specifically what I, my husband, and the kids would like for our birthdays and Christmas. Which is fine with me; I don’t mind sending them in the right direction. I know that not everyone enjoys, has time for, or feels like they know our tastes well enough to make selections on their own.

In fact, some people actually find the idea of choosing presents for others, stressful. These practical-natured folks like to be certain that a gift will be used and appreciated.

These peeps are precisely the type who would appreciate being sent a list of pre-selected gift ideas, with handy links to websites from which to order these requested products. Have you seen the email making the rounds on Social Media this past week?

1st Birthday Demands

As it turns out, one of the email’s recipients didn’t appreciate the practical (and yes, over-the-top protective & micro-managed) nature of the email’s contents. And, unfortunately, despite being a member of her immediate family, this recipient didn’t have enough respect for the mom who’d sent it, to keep it private.

So she is now known as: “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom,” and is being insulted in a variety of ways ranging from tacky to psychotic…

Is “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom” a bit over the-top with her military operation of the gift giving process? Sure. But, this is clearly her first child, she’s catering to, here. For those of us who have been there, as a new mom, we all had an area or two that we were overly-something about. But, luckily for us, nobody was taking notes, quoting us, or tossing proof of our irrational behaviour out to the sharks of the internet world.

Does “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom” take the “fun times” out of the gift selecting process? Ya. She does. Where there are rules, fun is inevitably hindered! You’ve got to admit, though, the woman is thorough and, dare I say she’d be a fab Personal Assistant. She is extremely practical and proactive. She makes reference to not wanting to waste money and is obviously quite frugal with the cash of others, as well as her own. Another perspective to consider is that perhaps she and her husband have limited space in their home and she’s concerned about where she’ll put all the gifts (hence the 2 gift limit). She could work on her delivery but she has reasons and worries and, in my opinion, her family should do their best to respect her wishes, no matter how they feel about her rule-laden approach.

Does “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom” need to take a chill pill? She absolutely does. And I am sure, in her own time, she will. Unfortunately, her family members (who could’ve just had a little chuckle or uttered a simple “yikes” and moved on) chose to drag her through the trenches, instead.

So, on behalf of “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom,” I feel compelled to send out this message to the email sharing family member: You’re a dick! And, somehow I have the feeling you are a long way from being forgiven. And all for an email’s five minutes of fame.

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12 thoughts on “Who’s the Real Dick? {It’s Not “Crazy 1st Birthday Mom”}

  1. YES!!!! Agree. I look back at some of the crazy new mom shit I did (some of it in writing like this poor soul) and think WTF, but luckily no one ever called me out on it on social media. Ugh!

    • We all have a bit of crazy that first year and beyond! I’m crazy when it come to safety. I’m irrational sometimes and I know it. So, as to not encourage my kids to be total chickens, who are afraid to try things, I have to actually look away when they are testing out some new gymnastics moves or when they are learning to ride a bike and they fall or even when they are getting on an escalator! (phobia!) That’s my over-the-top area that needs to be kept at bay!

  2. You are right. Yes, she is tacky and over the top and the internet is loving making fun of her right now. I posted an article on my Facebook page yesterday that poked fun of her and you know…I never looked below the surface and questioned HOW that email got out in the first place. Great post!

    • Thanks, Jill. She is an easy target, for sure. There are so many things about it to poke fun at. But, as you say, there is another person who needs to be addressed here and he/she isn’t going to change this woman by sharing her email with the world. 🙂

  3. They could both be dicks! I have a hunch that if it were a contest, the letter writer would win. This transgression is probably the straw that broke the camel’s back…just when the receiver of this letter got over the baby shower incident, they realize there’s no end in sight.
    Geez, I wonder why her kid gets rage when she tries to read to him?!

  4. I am ashamed to admit I even did a Christmas letter that first year. What was I thinking? Her family needs the chill pill. If everyone gets called out for their ‘stupids’ we will all be agoraphobics in no time!

  5. Amen to that! Yes, the one who posted this is the Dick, Jackass or whatever. I’m pretty anal myself and though I never went this far, I can completely understand the pragmatic rationale to this. Whenever we judge another parent when that parent is clearly just doing their best as they know how, then we become the stupid ass. Just sayin’. 🙂

    • I agree. I don’t personally relate to this rationale, nor do I have a controlling nature BUT I do have my over-the-top stuff, especially when it comes to safety! If I wrote my list of rules for, say, the appropriate way to embark upon an escalator, and the world got a look at it, I’d be perceived as an extreme helicopter mom with paranoid tendencies! A lot of us just “think our crazy” so we get to keep it safe and away from judgement. Thanks for reading, Joy.

    • I agree. I don’t personally relate to this rationale, nor do I have a controlling nature BUT I do have my over-the-top stuff, especially when it comes to safety! If I wrote my list of rules for, say, the appropriate way to embark upon an escalator, and the world got a look at it, I’d be perceived as an extreme helicopter mom with paranoid tendencies! A lot of us just “think our crazy” so we get to keep it safe and away from judgement. Thanks for reading, Joy.

  6. Wow. Hopefully the family member who “shared” is perfect. (obviously) I do get it. Mine would really want something, a scooter for example, and we would end up with 5 or 6 of em. Deal with it. They could choose the one they liked the best (and I got one). I was more in love with my babies than worried about their gifts. My son was so advanced he cried when we talked about his 3rd birthday. He didn’t want to be 3! He wants to stay 2! (How smart is THAT kid?) We have celebrated his 2nd birthday for 20 years now.
    Crazy people are all around. I am sure I am included in someone else’s definition of crazy. So what? Who cares? I’m not hurting anyone.

    P.S. when it comes to gifts I get, I don’t like to give any help. I want to see what you come up with….. and like you, gifts I give have to speak to me. So my gift giving is sometimes not timed right…..

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